On Manner

Manner

Manner is how we move among other people: consideration, judgment, hospitality, correspondence, and the small forms that make shared life easier.

Guide · On Manner

What Makes a Good Guest?

A good guest knows how to receive hospitality without making it harder to give.

A slate-blue cloth overnight bag beside a welcoming chair, water glass and book in a warm guest room
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Selected reading

Selected Manner Reading

Handwritten note, pen, and reading glasses on a desk

Historical Note · On Manner

The Thank-You Note

Some kindnesses deserve more than thanks in passing.

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The Better Way · On Manner

When Correcting Someone Becomes Bad Manners

The question is not only whether the correction is true, but whether it is worth making here, now and this way.

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A softly used linen napkin beside cutlery and a quiet place setting

Field Note · Manner + Form

The Napkin Is Not Decoration

The napkin belongs in the setting because it has work to do.

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All Manner

  1. Essay Manner + Form

    Stewardship Over Consumption

  2. Guide On Manner

    What Makes a Good Guest?

  3. Historical Note On Manner

    The Thank-You Note

  4. The Better Way On Manner

    When Correcting Someone Becomes Bad Manners

  5. Field Note Manner + Form

    The Napkin Is Not Decoration

  6. Essay Manner + Form

    Too Good to Use

  7. Essay On Manner

    When Formality Is Kindness

  8. Essay Manner + Form

    The Dinner Party Is Not a Performance

  9. Historical Entry Manner + Form

    Why the Fork Arrived Late in England

  10. Historical Entry On Manner

    Why We Shake Hands

  11. Historical Entry On Manner

    How Calling Cards Organized a Social World